Divorce Resort® FAQs

Q. Am I Really Going On Vacation With My Ex?


No, you are not vacationing with your ex. In fact, you may not see each other at all during the process. Going to a resort simply means you’re extricating yourself from daily life and hashing out the difficult aspects of your divorce in a more relaxed setting. You may want to plan a real vacation for yourself after it is over! 


 Q. Do You Book More Than One Couple At A Time?


No. This ensure your privacy and confidentiality, and the undivided attention of your attorney.


Q. Where Do We Go?


The Divorce Resort® process can be held anywhere. Ideally, the process should be at a location where there are amenities available to the parties that can help calm them when emotions begin to run high. You can select the location that is ideal for you, or you can leave it to your Divorce Resort® attorney to make that determination.


Q. Do We Stay In The Same Room?


No. Each party has their own suite and the mediator moves between them.


Q. Will I Have To See Or Talk To My Ex?


Every situation is different. There are some couples who work well together and others who do not. There will be times when the parties need to be heard by their soon-to-be ex-spouse, and when appropriate, they will be given that opportunity. Generally, the parties will remain separated so that the Divorce Resort® attorney can work with them individually to identify each party’s specific issues, goals and ideas for resolution. 


Everything discussed with the Divorce Resort® attorney is completely confidential and will never be disclosed to the other party without permission. 


Q. What Is The Difference Between A Mediator And An Arbitrator?


A mediator simply facilitates communication between the parties, provides information about what the law might provide in your specific case, and assists with brainstorming creative ideas for settlement. The mediator does not make any decisions — all decisions are left to the parties. Everything that occurs during the mediation process is confidential and cannot be revealed to any other party, including the party in the other room. Arbitrators, on the other hand, act as judges and their decisions are binding.


In the Divorce Resort® process, your Divorce Resort® attorney acts as mediator for the first two days. The parties resolve as many issues as they can through the mediation process and all agreements they reach are reduced to writing and are binding. If there are any pieces that the parties cannot resolve between themselves after two days, the mediator then becomes their arbitrator and decides those last issues for them, using all of the information gathered from the parties during the previous two days. This ensures that all issues will be resolved after the three days, and there is no threat of litigation hanging over the parties at any time during the process.


Q. So, as an arbitrator, don’t you eventually become the judge? Why would we want you to be our judge?


As part of this process you are selecting me to be your private judge for any issues that you are unable to resolve yourselves. Before you sign up for this process, you will know everything that you want to know about me, including my background, education, personal family experiences, and my career. Additionally, you can feel free to ask me about anything that I have not already put out there. Plus, after two days of acting as your mediator, I will truly get to know the issues most important to you, your values, and your goals for your future. Without this process, you could easily be stuck with a judge about whom you know nothing, who may have personal biases that will never be revealed to you, who gets to know you for about three hours and then makes rulings that will affect your financial future and your relationship with your children. Doesn’t it just make more sense to hand-pick your own private judge?


Q. Can Divorce Resort® Help Me Get What Is “Fair?”


That four-letter “F” word is the reason that parties need assistance in resolving divorce issues. What you think is a fair settlement is probably not what your soon-to-be-ex thinks is a fair settlement. After all, if you could agree on what is “fair” to the other person, you would not likely be getting divorced in the first place. Our goal to help both parties leave the process feeling that they are ending their relationship with the best outcome available to them, given their unique family circumstances.


Q. Can I Record The Sessions?


Everything that happens during the mediation process is completely confidential and therefore cannot be recorded. However, the arbitration process is not confidential and anything that a party may want to present during arbitration portion may be recorded.


Q. What Are The Costs?


The flat fee is customized to your situation, but will generally be less than the initial retainer requested by a divorce attorney. The fee includes the hotel fees, mediator/arbitrator fees, and preparation and filing of documents. You will never have to pay more than the initial quoted amount. 


Q. When The Papers Are Signed, Are We Actually Divorced?


By the end of the Divorce Resort® weekend, you will have the paperwork that makes all issues resolved in binding and enforceable documents. That is our promise to you. There will still be the issue of presenting formal documents to your local court. You are not legally divorced until your local judge signs your decree.


Divorce Resort®, pioneered by family lawyer Daryl Weinman of Weinman & Associates, is a revolutionary approach to a difficult process, available to clients in Dallas, Houston, Austin, and throughout Texas. For information, contact Texas family law attorney Daryl Weinman at 512-472-4040.